Sunday, January 18, 2015
My Group Therapy Sessions
A few years ago I was studying the Old Testament and I cam across this verse in Psalms that jumped out at me and taught me a very powerful lesson:
"Thou sittest and speakest against thy brother (sister);
thou slanderest thine own mother's son."
A trusted voice immediately started teaching me by bringing to my mind all the times my friends and I would have our "Group Therapy Sessions," which involved us sitting around and discussing our friends plights.
We were not cruel or malicious, we were just concerned friends
who could see our friends wayward ways and we knew best how to set them right.
As those sessions ran through my mind I found myself trying to justify our actions; but my excuses were feeble and hollow. I then began to realize that even though we were not being cruel or malicious we were still "Sitting and Speaking" against our sister. and were "slandering" our mother's daughter, It was a very bitter pill for me to swallow.
Being raised a Latter-Day Saint I had sung primary songs, "I'm trying to be like Jesus...love one another as Jesus loves you....Try and show kindness in all that you do.." "As I have loved you, love one another...this great commandment....love one another as I have loved you."
I felt smaller and smaller as those lyrics ran through my mind and I realized that I was not showing kindness in all that I did and I was not loving my brothers and sisters as Jesus loves you when I was participating in my "group therapy" sessions.
In fact I was doing the exact opposite;
I was slandering my own mother's daughter.
I shared my teaching moment with my truest friends who were part of our "Group therapy" group and was amazed that they too had a light bulb moment.
Needless to say that from that day on we dismantled our "Group Therapy" group.
Year later President Uchtdorf gave a conference address which addressed our group therapy sessions.
I loved the two strong words he used: "STOP IT!"
As I listened to his address I found myself smiling and thinking back to those many years before when one little verse from a daily bible study jumped out at me and quietly whispered, "Stop it!"
I have placed a copy of President Uchtdorf's talk here for those who would like to read his insightful words.